So I'm quite the submissive type and I'd do anything to get my guy off-- I *want* him to use me. And the guy I'm dating *can* be quite dominate, I've seen flashes of it, but he almost immediately backs off and regrets back to a "gentler" dominance, if that makes any sense? Putting his hand to my throat, but not really squeezing, pinning me down by my writsts, but I'd still be able to get out of it if I really wanted to, stuff like that. I've talked to him about it, and he says he's afraid of hurting me. I've told him he shouldn't be, that I can take it, but still he holds back. Is there anyway I can make his dominance come out fo lr more than a flash, or should I just leave it be and accept that he probably won't be much rougher unless I piss him off or something before sex?